A lot of young men go crazy for going abroad in order to
earn their living. No doubt, economic recession in the country, devaluation of
local currency, and increasing unemployment in Pakistan are some of the
monsters that compel our young lot to think of going abroad. Their relatives and
friends abroad intensify their desire with their show off of wealth on their
visit to Pakistan and a deep feel of inferiority and being let down overwhelms them and they
long for flying to US and other European countries where, they think, rivers of
dollars and pounds flow and heavens are waiting for them.
Read more »Labels: Marriage, Pakistan, Paper Marriage
posted @ 08:16,
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A politician in Bahawalnagar district wedded recently and
the barat was demanded to come by helicopter. The bride desired to go to her
husband’s place in a helicopter. Desires are the signs of life and they should
exist in our daily life otherwise life will be a blank paper. But these wishes
and desires should not be at the cost of others. Desire of bringing barat on a
helicopter may lead to a trend or the other brides of the area can also demand
the same on their
marriage. Where will the trend go if this practice goes on?
What if someone is
Read more »Labels: Islam, Marriage, Wedding Rituals
posted @ 05:43,
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Eid ul Fitr is in the wake and excitement of girls and
ladies goes on increasing in spite of the hot and humid weather. They have
started visiting boutiques, cloth depots, shoes brands and jewelry shops. Mehndi
is another festivity that is favorite on Eid and without which Eid is not considered
perfect. Special Mehndi stalls on Eid
are the temporary beauty of Eid bazaars skilled people are hired to apply
Mehndi on the hands of girls. Bangles are another must and shops have an extended
item of Eid. After Eid,
wedding season
is coming up, so the ladies are shopping for two events.
Other Eid accessories consist of home decor, children items,
food items, make up, and what not. These bazaars are prelude to Eid and
marriages after Eid. So the rush in these bazaars and markets is justifiable. These preludes offer complete shopping packages
at one place and aim at pleasing the customers with the best they can have for
them.
Labels: Eid Bazaars, Marriage, Shopping, Wedding
posted @ 12:46,
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According to an estimate, 10 million girls are unmarried in
Pakistan and their parents are waiting for the suitable
matches for them. Every
rising day they start waiting for someone to select them as their
life partners and every sunset brings news of ‘no one came’. Disappointments and depression overwhelm
them and different psychological problems appear in their life. Parents blame
themselves to have daughters and the girls allege themselves to be born as
girls. High standards of our society and double standards of the parents of
boys contribute to a massive number of these unmarried girls. Why are parents
of boys not empathetic towards the family of girls? They seek for a daughter-in-law
resembling moon irrespective of appearance and look of their son.
Out of the main reasons of this gigantic number, there is a
tendency of impressing others with the selection of superb daughter-in-law. Relatives
and friends are the audience of this show off who are feared to make fool if
daughter-in-law is not extremely beautiful, smart and cool.
Dowry is the other main reason of this issue. Those who are
not financially strong are doomed to suffer like this. They do not have money
to buy cars, heavy machinery, plots, and house to their daughter in dowry. And the
result is the daughters turn gray-headed at home of parents. Marriage is a bargain in other words.
Appearance is the only criterion to select a girl as life
partner. It means those who have not been born with so-called beauty, will not
find matches. girls with less height or with any physical problem are denied to get selected as life partners.
Labels: Marriage, Match Making, Perfect Match
posted @ 14:20,
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After Eid wedding season will be on and ladies will get busy
in designing and shopping wedding dresses and instinctively, they want to look
unique and most beautiful in the
marriage function. Their search for latest
trends in
bridal Lehngas is justifiable. Those who will get marry after Eid,
are busy in designing and stitching bridal dresses. The latest Lehnga is coming
in long shirt that looks so beautiful. Due
to its fine work, fantastic look, and a lot of variety available in the market,
long shirt Lehnga is popular among girls. Long shirt is in vogue with Lehnga as
well as sharara.
Long shirt is coming in two styles: open shirt and long
shirt. Heavy embroidery in both styles is available on bridal boutiques and market.
Some people prefer to buy the stuff and get it stitched from tailors. Red and
maroon combinations and contrasts are tradition which is preferred by the
majority of brides as red color is the symbol of suhaag. The second day dresses
can be of different colors in the same variety. You can now avail the on line presence of bridal
shops with their pages on social media. Placing an order on line for the dress
you want is not an issue today. But the real bliss is in the bridal shopping in
the markets, window shopping, and enjoying rate fixing with the shop keepers.
Labels: Bridal, Lehnga, Long Shirt, Marriages
posted @ 05:44,
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Pakistan is located in region where extremities of four
weathers touch the land and its inhabitants have to adapt themselves according
to the modes and moods of weathers. Intensely cold weather confines the outside
activities on one side, and blistering sun limits all mobility for the three
months of summer. Hot and humid weather
of the rainy season makes it very hard to manage marriage functions. Suffocation
and humidity level in the air deteriorates the wedding
activities and people
generally prefer their marriage in October to December and February to the mid
of April. These months are ideal for
functions as there are no warm clothes needed to cover from cold nor are there
any fans or air conditioners required to keep the temperature normal.
Wedding dresses are available in the stuff that is not easy
to wear in terribly hot or cold weather. All
bridal dresses are made with
embroidery and other fine work in fancy stuff that makes it heavy to wear and
bear it in extreme seasons.
Food served in wedding functions is also a matter of concern
when talking on the ideal season of marriages. In summer, it is feared to go
stale and in winter it needs to be heated again and again.
Labels: Marriages, Seasons
posted @ 06:43,
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One of the most fascinating event in marriages is the ritual
of mehndi celebrated almost in every family. It is the generally stag night when hands
and feet of the girl are garnished with mehndi that leaves dark red or maroon
color on the skin and is considered a compulsory part of a
marriage. Apparently, it is a function of applying
mehndi, but it is made colorful with singing songs and dancing by the friends
and family members of bride. Girl wears yellow or green fancy dress of her
choice or brought by the family of bridegroom. In some marriages, family of
bridegroom brings mehndi for the girl and the both families enjoy the colors
and bliss of the event. Mehndi is
brought in fancy dishes adorned with candles and flowers. Young boys and girls
conduct singing contests while elders enjoy their activities sitting in arm
chairs and sofas.
Elder ladies and specially seven suhagan (the ladies who are
married) ladies are supposed to start the ritual of married and they put a
little quantity of mehndi on the hands of bride. Though this mehndi is merely a
display and real mehndi is applied by the beauticians or any other expert lady,
the whole gathering makes it a beautiful function. There is no panic or hurry
in this function that makes it the most memorable event and young generation
prefers to attend it the most. Though
these
rituals have been taken from other nations, everyone family plans and manages
them with zeal.
Labels: Marriages, Mehndi, Rasm e Mehndi
posted @ 03:31,
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One of the positive steps by the government of Punjab is the decision of
closing all wedding halls at 10 pm. Before this decision,
marriage ceremonies
lasted till dawn that affected the routines of the participants on one side,
and increased overall cost on unnecessary wedding rituals. Marriage is a Sunnah
of the Holy Prophet (PBUH) but we have made it an event full of rituals which
are generally taken and borrowed from other nations. We feel proud of excessive
outflow of money on our wedding functions regardless of the fact that we are
harming others.
Our pride is extravagance on marriages in society breeds many problems. This
show off of lavish expenditure on unnecessary rituals leaves others in
inferiority complex. Wedding halls were reserved till late at night and dance
parties and singers were invited to entertain the participants of wedding. Restricting
marriage hall and closing them at 10 pm has checked this lavishness a great
deal.
Labels: Lavishness, Marriages, Wedding Halls
posted @ 03:52,
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It would not be wrong to say that Pakistan is a land of rituals, festivals, and celebrations.It is the land of thousand faces, a country simply overflowing with cultural richness. Whatever the preferences, a wedding in Pakistan is good display of customs, traditions, many of which are heavily influenced by foreign customs. Marriage is an important social celebration and people participate with passion and enthusiasm. The rites are imbued with a certain sentiment appeal. And they are considered a must in functions and jubilation.
Demographically, Pakistan is divided in rural hinterland and urban areas. Common among marriages in rural and urban areas are Mangnee, Mayoon, Mehndi, Nikah, Valima and living happily ever after. But the way these colorful rituals are performed greatly vary.
Rural areas of Pakistan still remain a largely conservative society, where many young people shy away when it comes to marriages. Exceptions apart, arranged marriages are a cornerstone of rural society. It remains the responsibility of parents and marriages are mostly among people within the same tribe, caste, community, family or locality.
This is what happens in rural areas with some minor changes from place to place: After initial understanding and covert messages between families of prospective spouses, the boy's relatives visit the girl's family and offer the proposal, on formal acceptance the "mangni" (engagement) takes place, marriage date is fixed, groom, with friends and relatives goes to the house of the bride in the form of barat (marriage procession) where the nikah (social contact) is performed. The consent of the bride and the groom to the marriage (ijab and qabool) in the presence of at least two witnesses is obtained to solemnize the contract as per the commandment of divine Islam. Guests are served with sumptuous food (notwithstanding what the law of the land says about the feast). Groom brings home his the bride. This is followed by Walima. Life goes on . . .
Moreover, on the arrival of barat, the dowry is displayed for every one to see and at the same place groom's female relatives show what they have gifted (jewelry and clothing) to the bride. Both sides glorify the gifts. Paradoxically, in Punjab, a night earlier than the marriage date, groom visits homes of his friends and relatives where he is offered money. Other gifts mostly in the form of money (salami) or garlands made of currency notes are presented when groom gets ready for going to bride's home. Customarily, groom dresses up in attire presented to him by one of his sisters and in return, he gives to his sister(s) what she demands. There are no marriage halls and the congregations take place in homes and or community centres (called Daras). There are no caterers. Local tradesmen prepare food and serve.
As per the available statistics, divorce rate in the rustic areas is comparatively lower. The core joint family system is still in tact and that is one of the reasons for low divorce rate. At the other hand, marriages at very young age, consanguineous marriages, marriages without consent of the partners and cross marriages are common. And they are one way or the other successful due to the family set ups and involvement of elders who are the main deciding authority over there even today..
Labels: Marriage, Rituals in Marriage, Rural Marriages
posted @ 12:18,
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She was 10 and half years old when she was told one day that
the next day she will leave the home of her parents because her father has
given her to another tribe as wife of a man who was in his late 60s. The news
was not completely understood by the girl but the news of leaving her home was
shocking for her and she started crying. No tear knocked any door of the hearts
of parents, relatives, or any all others around called humans. And she was
dragged to the new home with her husband who was elder even than his father.
Yes it was a
marriage. The wealthy father had paid a heavy price of a life and a
greedy or poor father sold himself in the market. Bride was less than eleven
and bridegroom was more than 60. What a couple they made! Religion, ethics, medical
facts…….all stayed deaf and dumb and a happy marriage took place in the far off
village.
It is happening even today in those areas where there are no
roads to take media and their news reporters or cameras. Since the news is of a
wealthy or influential people of society, it is generally not allowed to travel
on the wings of media. No reporting, no action, and even no listening of the affected
child are those social ills that scream of instant help and redemption. NGOs and government bodies need a joint
venture to not only stop this cruel action but they need to ‘infiltrate’
education into these minds who are the godfathers of such rural areas.
Labels: Child Marriage, Marriage
posted @ 06:01,
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It is a general observation that parents are found cursing their sons who have changed after their marriage. Daughter-in-law is generally blamed of getting their son converted to merely a husband rather than a son and brother. Apart from individual examples which are not more than a few, problems generally lied underneath the lack of understanding the sensitive nature of relation that grow more touchy after marriage. Two families come into contact and if the both are not kept and maintained in a balanced way, relations get deteriorated and the climax sometimes reaches the peak point of divorce. Post-marriage issues at home are sometimes really pathetic.scenes at home are sometimes really pathetic.
Weighing both sides in an equal way is the key to the respectful and reasonable solution of all post-marriage issues at home. When there is an equilibrium between wife and the parental side, generally complaints of the both die out and husband comes up successful. The crux of the matter is that
parents feel themselves insecure after their daughter-in-law reaches home whereas, daughter-in-law takes them as enemies or adversaries whose mission is to undermine the character of the former. Proper division of time and attention to both and discussing their complaints as a family is the key to peaceful solutions. Due to lack of education, our ladies are house wives who are less patient to the other party at home. The need is to put the both at their proper place avoiding any tilt.
Labels: Marriage, Post marriage Issues, Relations
posted @ 12:39,
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Read more »Labels: Marriages, Match Making, On line Match Making, Wedding
posted @ 10:04,
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Well, a wedding function at your home
is nearing and you have to buy a lot but the terrible weather outside does not
allow you to bother the hot and humid The rise of Social Media has, on one
side, enlightened the modern man, it has also made life easy and convenient for
those who do not have enough time to go to bazaars and markets to buy what they
need. Busy routine of life and working six days a week has left everyone tired
of physically going to the market. And then the deteriorated situation of law and
order is a burning question of the day but do not worry. Social Media has
reached your door step. It is just one click away from you when you are
intending to buy a bridal dress for bride or bridegroom. Dresses at competitive
rates in a marvelous quality and reasonable tags are available while you are
sitting in your arm chair.
Know the Trends
Social Media has opened open shops
where you do window shopping all the day. On line stores show you all their
inventory and you can make choices. Trendy and in fashion dresses in bridal
niche is what you will love to have in your hands. Place an order and have your
dress. You can know the trends, save the picture, copy the style of bridal
dress and enjoy the latest fashion.
Online shopping
Home delivery has made another task
easy for you. Now go to kitchen, make a coffee mug and open the main gate on a
door bell. The order you placed, is on the gate. How easy it is to buy bridal
dresses now! Isn't it?
Labels: Bridal Dresses, On line shopping, Shopping, Social Media
posted @ 03:57,
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This is the story of those days when a few years pass after marriage. The bliss and charm of marital life is over and ground realities stand up from all sides. Economic issues, domestic crisis, and family involvement breeds tensions and frustrations in the minds of the couple and they start living like strangers while being under one roof. Life becomes tough, days and nights are heavier and a happy life turns to a burden. But there is no issue that cannot be sorted out. With a slight understanding and cooperation, home can be converted to a happy home again.
Share your tensions with your life partner
Most of our domestic problems arise when we do not share our problems with our life partner. Wife demands and husband is supposed to meet all those demands without being noticed that he is in financial trouble. If he takes his wife into confidence and budgets his household, many unnecessary expenses can be subtracted from daily and monthly register.
Do not cheat or lie
Cheating is the climax of relations whereas telling lies are the beginning points to kill a happy life. Try to be truthful to your life partner. It can save you from many troubles.
Trust each other
Trust is the key to healthy relation between a couple. Sceptical attitude and questioning kills the peaceful environment of home.
Recognise the work of your spouse
Generally, our ladies are house wives and they keep themselves busy in household all the day but husbands do not recognise their contribution to successful running of home. A little recognition can resolve many issues at home.
Labels: Issues, Marriage, Post Marriage
posted @ 10:27,
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